5 Valuable Life Lessons for Busy Working Moms
Word for today? Lesson.
Do you ever feel like you are supposed to have ALL of the answers?
I felt like that back in the days when I owned a marketing agency. Any time someone on my team had a question, I felt I had to have the “right” answer. Immediately. On the spot. Every time. If I didn’t have the answer, I would do one of two things:
- Make up something and pretend I had the answer. This, in turn, made me feel like a poser and a fraud. But most importantly, this never led to the best result. Instead of being focused on my need to always have the answer, I should have been focused on doing whatever I could to help the team meet the needs of our valuable clients.
- Since I’m not very good at masking my emotions, I would get visibly frustrated and annoyed with the person asking the question. This happened often enough that, over time, my peeps asked fewer and fewer questions. I can assure you that it’s not a very healthy work environment when employees don’t feel empowered to ask questions.
Becoming a Mom has made me a better leader
Fortunately, I recognize the err of my ways and feel like I’ve grown as a leader since those early days. I also recognize that I still have many, many, many lessons to learn in life.
Becoming a Mom has been instrumental in helping me understand that I’m NEVER going to have all of the answers…and that is O-KAY. That’s why we have Google, right?
Seriously, as a recovering perfectionist, that part about “it being O-KAY” is something I still wrestle with and have to remind myself on a regular basis.
Life Lessons…from our house to yours
This got me thinking about some of the life lessons that my husband and I are trying to instill in our four-year-old son. I‘ll share five of them with you today:
- Lesson #1: Everybody makes mistakes. I tell this to our son on a regular basis and usually add, “Even Mommies and Daddies make mistakes.” I already notice perfectionist tendencies in my wee one and I want to help him understand that he doesn’t have to be perfect. And, I’ll be totally honest – it’s kind of a relief, knowing that he knows that we’re just here doing our best as parents, figuring this stuff out as we go. And, from time to time, we are going to totally blow it and screw things up. Which leads me to Lesson #2…
- Lesson #2: The most important thing is what we do after we make a mistake. If we’ve hurt someone’s feelings, we should want to make things right with them by acknowledging the mistake and apologizing. It’s important to use our words and look the person in the eye when making an apology. A big hug usually helps, too.
- Lesson #3: We’re all learning. Nobody knows everything. This includes Moms and Dads…AND business leaders! I think we’re all meant to learn something new every single day.
- Lesson #4: Kids teach parents new things just as much as parents teach kids. Our son REALLY latched on to this one and fully embraces it. It’s very empowering for him. He loves teaching me the words to a new song that he learned at school or quizzing me on the names of all the Monster Jam truck drivers. And, like any good teacher, he patiently corrects me when I mix up the names. (Which I do every single time.)
- Lesson #5: Be kind to all living things. We’re trying to teach our son to have a kind heart towards the world. And, I’ve learned that this starts with modeling good behavior myself. He watches me like a hawk and calls me out on things I’ve said when I didn’t even know he was listening. Again, see lesson #4: he is my patient little teacher!
For me, these lessons can apply in business with employees just as easily as they do at home with the kiddos. I’d love to hear about some of the wisdom and lessons that you’ve picked up along the way.
Until next time, thanks for reading and happy ball juggling!
Question: What are some life lessons you’re trying to teach your kids? Please share your comments below.